What I've realized is that companies want that perfect candidate. They want someone that has exactly everything in the job description that they posted. No matter it was probably written by a HR partner that really doesn't know diddly about the job at hand.
I truly believe that companies should be more flexible in what they are looking for and maybe take a chance on someone that has 75 or 80 percent of what they are looking for.
Last week I had a great interview that turned into a second interview. That second interview lasted two hours and I met with five people. After we met, two of the interviewers requested me on LinkedIn. I wrote fantastic thank you letters, that were customized to each individual conversation.
Low and behold, I'm not what they are looking for. Mind you, when I left that interview I knew in my heart I had the job. I said all the right things. I took queue's from them when and how to answer. I can't figure out for the life of me, why I'm not a fit. And, surprisingly enough, I'm ok with not knowing why. It's their loss. Not mine.
Going into this weekend, I'm feeling pretty low about myself, my background, and if I really do know what I'm doing. I'd like someone to take the reigns and find me that perfect fit. Sadly, I don't have that luxury. Recruiters can only do so much, so I feel like I'm on an island.
Needing to see the positive in this negative time is hard to do. But here it goes:
- I've been married for 24 years to the guy I met at my first day at college. 28 years later, we have two incredible boys who are truly the lights of our lives. Three months ago, we started to rediscover us.
- I have my health...sure my knees might creak and my back may hurt, and for the life of me my leg won't stop tingling, but all in all I'm pretty healthy.
- My family is standing by my side.
- I have a roof over my head, food on the table, clothes on my back. It may not be the biggest house, it may not be lobster, and they may not be Vera Wang, but they are mine.
- Our kids got into the college of their choice, and they love every minute of school (even though they may deny it)
- I went back to school after 16 years away and finished with a 4.0 GPA and graduated Cum Laude. No one can ever take that away from me. It might not be an MBA, but it's what I wanted. I went after it and I achieved it.
- I've met some really great people at the companies I worked at...and I'm happy to say that I do still have some of them as friends.
- I have three awesome dogs, who might drive me nuts, and tend to pick sides, but they are still pretty great.
- I picked new skills at each job I've held. Each job has paved the way for my career, and I know that soon someone will realize that I'm perfect for their company.
- I get to do what I love in my spare time. Read, write and take pictures. If I could make a career out of it, I would.
- I've realized that there is a company out there that will appreciate my candor, my sarcasm, and my need to sometimes be left alone to do my job without interruptions.
- Sometimes, at the most random moment, I'll see a post on Facebook, or get a text from a friend, that puts it all in perspective.
Time to start each day with a positive attitude. Time to find that perfect fit. Time to make the most of the photography jobs I get. Time to write that next book...this time around, everything will make sense.
Time to be me. Only better.